Icy Flame

(1) What each of us expects from the other is fair and realistic. (2) We are happy with one another, as we are. (3) Each of us listens to the other, and cares. (4) There is ample room for each of us to have a separate life/self. We know we are two separate people who choose to be together and grow/nurture a wonderful, loving relationship. (5) We can argue or disagree, and remain friends. (6) Each of us has come to rely on the other, because we value our relationship as a top priority. (7) Mutual communication and sharing is valued by each of us. (8) Neither of us must be something or someone other than what we are, to please the other. (9) Total honesty is a shared value, as well as kindness and sensitivity toward one another's feelings. (10) Our relationship works well now, not as an unfulfilled goal to be hoped for in the future. (11) We are both committed to the relationship, and to one another. Neither of us threatens to leave. (12) We love and care for one another, unconditionally

I just saw this article in a Chinese blog when I am surfing. It is in Chinese. I don't know whether others can find it in other languages in internet so far. But anyways I really impressed by this article.
If I am in love now I think it will be quite romantic to experience all of these.:) I just translates it into English as follows:

To all the girls in love:20 things you have to do when you are with him:
1.dare to give him a hug or a kiss in public.
2.sleep on the same bed for one night talking and holding each other in arms without doing anything else.
3.cook the dinner for each other one day and then sit down face to face watching the other finish the food.
4.write diaries for him. no matter you are good at writing or not. even several words will be nice.
5.cry out like a child in his arms once no matter you are sad or happy, but make sure he is the only one to see your tears.
6. stay far away from him for some time--maybe several days--and then get a chance to taste the feeling of missing.
7.watch a moive which bores both of us, and then become absent-minded both. see each other in your eyes instead of anything else.
8.say "I love you" to him once and held his hand face to face.
9.if possible embrace each other on the top of the mountain, sit down side by side looking up at the sky full of stars.
10.make his voice to the ring of your cell phone.
11.don't forget to "show off"--be a couple of happy lovers any time and let others envy you both. remember you deserve all the happiness.
12.go for a trip with him when you have enough time and money, create some beautiful precious memory with him in some beautiful places.
13.call him a silly guy sometimes when you are alone with him; let him call you silly girl sometimes also.
14. both of us should not mind the past but should think of the future.
15. believe in this: you are my only one; i am your only one. we are exclusive.
16.try to get a bit naughty and close your eyes while walking in the street and let him lead you carefully and safely cross the road(never disobey the traffic rules).
17.go to the beach enjoying the sunrise and sunset with him for at least once in your life time.
18.tickle him and make him laugh out loud if he is ticklish.
19.go to all the bbs or forums on net and tell others you have a wonderful man like him.
20.wake him up by kissing.


okay, finished.lol

i change two or three of the 20 lists by the way i like.

what do you think of these lists? maybe you smile when you read it; maybe you just feel it boring. however, what you cannot deny is that there is love. it can grow silently from the bottom of your heart any time in any forms.

love is the air, warm and beautiful.

Tonight zhang, a boy who in the same campus as me, wanted to invite me out for dinner. Since i didn't have dinner yet and felt kinda hungry so i decided to go with him. However i told him "let's go dutch." he insisted it be his treat. i told him it wasn't so necessary since it wasn't a date. he was sort of unhappy but didn't say anything.
We ran into another friend on our way to one sichuan resturant nearby our campus. I smiled at her and asked whether she had dinner or not and liked to join us. she made a face at us and said that:" well enjoy your dinner. I don't want to be the third wheel." i made a face back and told her we were just buddy friends and not on a date now. the girl laughed and said:" okay, okay. i know."
Sigh. I really hope she did know but anyone here knows she is really an information bureau....
I just concentrated on my food during the dinner because i really didn't know what he wanted to say to me. i remember of my roomate told me zhang had a crush on me before and asked me just to wait and see if i didn't believe her. I am not a very sensitive person and i less care about others' feelings towards me if i consider them to be indifferent to me. zhang is a nice guy and not badlooking. we studied in the same college also and worked as dj in the student union radio station. some girls say he is a very romantic boy.
whatever, does it have anything to do with me? we are just friends and nothing more.

very few friends know about Mark so far. everyone knows i am single and free.

....
zhang asked me about my midsemester exams. i smiled and told him I got eighty somethings and the cut-off points for A is 80 so it meant i'd got a's this time. "wowo, well done! " he cried out. I blinked at him and said it was because i was a bookworm and smart enough not to be involved in any relationship. in another word i was not interested in finding a b/f now at all.
he replied me half jokingly also:"so does it mean i don't have a chance to date you at all?" i realized what he was trying to tell me something.
"nope." i said.
he didn't say anything for a while and just drank his coke.
i tried ot be patient and didn't start saying anything,either.
several minutes later. he broke the ice:" well i was just kidding. you know i am also not interested in you at all. But certainly i like you as nice friend."
"haha." i laughed out loud and felt totally relaxed,"yes, i do know. zhang. actually you are too dear for my possession."
....

i didn't quite enjoy the dinner tonight. to be frank i was kinda nervous at first. i am not really sure whether he was interested in me or not. But i remember well one of my friends used to tell me he made her feel so special... hmm.. maybe i can think of fix them up...:D