Icy Flame

I am always intertested in learning difficult cultures and customs as well as learning. I'd spent more than half a year to learn the Indian culture and history well I was with my Indian ex-boyfriend and also something about Islam religion because he was a muslim guy( but still to be frank I believe i could never understand this kind of religion at all:(.....and one day I really pissed my ex b/f off when I asked him one questioin : why 99% of the muslim are not terrorists but 99% of terrorists are muslim.)I was really fascinated by the long and great Indian history and diverse cultures and customs. I did and do like some kinds of Indian food even though most of the Indian food is too hot and spicy for me.:P I spent one month to learn Indian dance,too.

I always believe that once I fall in love with one guy I have to devote myself to him. I should be attracted to not only his body but also his mind, heart and soul--in another word, to enjoy him physically and mentally. And loving a guy is much more than that. To love him not only means you should understand him, but also means you should understand his family, his upbringing, his culture, his religion (if he has any, because sometimes in some countries religiion does plays an important role in the society and people's daily life. And it is very important for someone who is very religious. Sigh.... again I just wonder how come I fell in love with my ex-bf).

Love me, love my dog--wowo, that's really a nice saying.I want to let the guy I love understand I want to overcome all the cultural barrier to reach him.
I want to let him know :
"Don't worry about the language barrier. I can learn your language and communicate with your parents who don't understand my native languages without difficulty."
"Don't worry about the race. you are so handsome and charming in my eyes and I hope you find me attrative and pretty also. Exotic is often more attractive. :P "
"Don't worry about the cultural border. Learning a new culture opens a new world to you."
"Don't worry that we are totally diffenert. See we can always find so much in common still. It is really amazing to discover anything new and explore each other everyday."

Oops, it looks as if I get mixed up my past with my present now. In fact it is far from that. I really know it well what I really want in my life nowadays. I had an unsuccessful relationship with my ex Indian b/f but it doesn't mean that i cannot develop a healthy and successful new relationship with another guy who comes from different country and culture again.As Mark always says since we've already found out oursleves can come to an agreement on some important things, it really doesn't matter that we are so different from each other.

Obviously I become so interested in Mark, one American guy now. As a matter of fact both of us are strongly attracted by each other. I am really eager to learn more about his cultures and customs.
I will. Good luck vivi:P

Along in my room now. Looking out of the window seeing the beautiful night sight of this busy city, I've got a feeling I am surviving in the forest of the cold bludings and the desert of the souls. I am really missing him a lot.

Some intensive English programs in the United States offer a foreign student the option of living with an American family while he or she is studying abroad. Many students feel that such a home-stay program is a valuable part of their total learning experience. However, others may feel that such a plan offers little value. A foreign student who plans to come to the United States must have some definite goals in mind. For the student who wants to improve his English quickly and learn about American customs firsthand, there is often an opportunity to live with an American family. There may be one or two disadvantages to this living arrangement; however, I believe that there are far more advantages.First of all, some minor disadvantages to living with an American family include both a lack of privacy and little opportunity to be independent. For instance, the foreign student may find that the family expects him to join them in group activities such as watching television and going on picnics. At times, however, he might enjoy staying in his room to read or to write letters to his family and friends. Another drawback to living in an American home involves the possibility that the family may treat the student like a child. For example, the parents may want to decide who his friends will be and where he will go during his leisure time away from home.Even though there may be one or two disadvantages to living with an American family, the advantages far outweigh them. By taking part in a home-stay program, the student has an excellent opportunity to learn about American customs. He will find out how to behave in different social situations such as parties and ceremonies and how to dress on these occasions. Also, he will learn about many other aspects of the American way of life, such as the way schools are run in the United States. With a family lose by, he can ask questions about attendance rules and school costs. The family will make certain that he becomes acquainted with this new way of life, and soon he will feel at home.Another advantage to lining with an American family is that the student is in an ideal environment to improve his English. For example, each time he has a conversation with someone in the family, this native speaker can help him with his pronunciation and grammar. Maybe the younger children in the family can help the student with his homework, too. But the most important thing is that he will be surrounded by English most of the time during his stay in the United States.Although I agree that there may be a couple of disadvantages to living with an American family, I feel that the advantages are more obvious. In a home-stay program, the student can learn about American customs in the most natural way possible. In addition, he will find himself in an atmosphere in which his English will certainly improve. In my opinion, these are the two most important goals for him to consider, and living with an American family is the best way to achieve them.

What do you do when you encounter an intercultural romance? In another word, what do you do when you find yourself being attracted to a foreigner or someone who is from one different culture or country?
I've been thinking of this question for a long time.

Anyways I am a mixed-blood Asian (Chinese and Thai) and I had one non-Chinese-and-Thai b/f before. It is always so easy to fall in love but so difficult to maintain a healthy long relationship, sigh.

I've been totally down for the past one year and a half after the breakup with my ex-b/f. It is really tough to get along with someone who is different different from you, who has different languages(language still not a problem for me,lol), cultrues, customs, religions from you.

Surely it is always so interesting and nice to know people from different culture and upbringing. But if we are completely different we have to be able to find something in common between us. Otherwise the relationship will just lead to a failure sooner or later.

Nowadays I am trying to begin a relationship again..He seems so nice for me. But still I suppose I just lack of the sense of security:(